Community?

This has been one of the main things that being a Trinity Fellow has taught me.
Just what is community? and What is not community?

I was the only African American Trinity Fellow. This creates real space for the full gravity of questions of being in community.

I'll never forget jogging by two African American guys, one of whom said "What's good family?!" He said this because I was jogging through the neighborhood for Trinity Pres.'s VidaJoven jog. This run was designed to get people out and together to raise money for Nicaraguan children who need financial help attending YoungLife camp this summer. Trinity Presbyterian is currently, mostly Caucasian American. So I, and a long line Caucasian Americans had, passed these two men as they walked along the street. I passed them by again, (I had to meet up with a sixth grader) they regarded me and did not smile.

Were these two men my community, automatically because of their race? Were we automatically brothers in the same struggle? or not? Did I betray my community?

I don't think we were. I didn't know them, they didn't know me. Our struggles might have been similar in a few instances. Along with community comes with responsibility. I mean that we are both able to respond and can be held accountable to respond to those we are in community with. This is possible because of a relationship built and maintained overtime. How can you have community without relationship? As a Christian, how can you have community based that based on everything but THE relationship? Deitrich Bonhoeffer writes in Life Together, "What determines our brotherhood is what that man is by reason of Christ." The community of the body of faith is not built on our taste, culture, or shared history. Part of what determines my relationships is part of what Christ has done in placing me here. I believe that God has placed people in my physical presence for a very embodied community. You can see examples of this at the end of Romans, 1st and 2nd Corinthians, 1 Thessalonians, and 1 Peter, the apostles admonition for Christian to greet one another with a "holy kiss."

Now, I know social kisses are intrinsic to Greek culture but the point is that you can't greet and kiss those who are not there, no matter who similar the two of you are. Physical presence as a necessity for relational community is found in many other places throughout the Bible. It is found in process of discipleship that Jesus used. It is found in the help Aaron and Hur holding Moses' hands. It is found in the community of David and his vagabond warriors that ran for from King Saul.

In short, I believe that God has made no mistake in placing me where I am. He has made no mistake in placing certain people, like Fellows, around me. This does not mean that I should exclude every other relationship in life. God gave those too and he must be honored in them. It means that must honor his decisions. In doing so, I must choose make my life with those in the Fellows world and to allow them to do the same with me. This has not been easy nor has it been perfectly done, but I must continue to honor God's decision and trust that His work is good.

An Addendum:

Part of me wants to delete this post. There's so much to explain around it. Yes, there is no denying that through our rich forms of communication it is possible to build relationship without a physical presence. Still relationship depends on the person being knowing and being known, not just a set of assumptions.

A Song of Accents: A Psalm

I walk up the stairs every day to get to work. I go taking my sacrifice of livelihood and prestige. I go, applying the sacrifices of others. Their finances, their time, such valuable stock, I help make it count.

I work for Charlottesville Abundant Life Ministries. We serve a poor community in Charlottesville, VA. We serve the entire family. Fathers, mothers, men, ladies; their sons and our daughters: our students. In serving, we build. We build homes, community, good diets, good learners, their skill sets, and the family.

“Unless the LORD builds the house,
the builders labor in vain.” ^v1

We watch as we build. We watch kids because they need the attention. We watch our brother and sisters so we can take each opportunity to BE brothers and sisters. As we watch, we guard. We stamp out bad behavior. We watch to encourage good behavior. We guard against despair with arms for others to grieve in. We guard against hopelessness with home visits, open car doors, service projects, newsletters, and celebrating report cards. We guard the good we see.

“Unless the LORD watches over the city,
the guards stand watch in vain.” ^v1

We build and guard and find ourselves children, with children. In seeking to give fellowship and resources to the poor, we ourselves become poor. We become the ones without family and friends. We become ones with needs so far beyond our means we can do nothing but beg. And the first ear we reach is God’s. As children, we beg for things we can’t live without; we depend on him. As wait for our need to be met (and surpassed), God’s children depend on us. They knock on our doors, wait for our cars, open their arms, smile at our faces, and wait for us.

In the moments of returning a grim face for a grimace at the sound of our shaking, begging cups, in the moment returning a cranky glare to winsome giggles, we remember. We are a blessing that God has blessed.

“Children are an heritage of the Lord and the fruit of the womb is his reward.”

Each morning, we all walk seven, small flights of stairs to get to work. We carry our sacrifices to and meet the sacrifices of others at the top. Like people and priest so long ago, we travel, with hope, to worship.

A gift at L'Arche

I visited L'Arche again. It was just for dinner. I walked in greeted people and one of the core members took my hand. He refused to let go. He just held it. He sat down, spoke to people in his own way, even participated in the prayer, while holding my hand. Here I was, a grown man, knowing almost no one in the room, with a big goofy smile on my face. I felt welcomed, truly welcomed, heck: poured into by one guy, who does uses his hands to communicate. He held my hand and refused to let go. He walked me around the house, he introduced me to everyone. It was different, but I really appreciated it. I even got to talk to those that serve the core-members, like really get to know them. We had some really funny moments, but we would not have been comfortable enough to share if not for the residents. I came by myself, because of him I was not there alone. For a moment, I was welcome into family. For a moment. That was the gift.

So Little to Say...

I have so little to say at this moment. For the past few weeks, I've been feeling responsible for and response-able about my financial situation. I've been working part-time and going to school for the past few years. I want to work full time and go to school part-time for as long as I still go to school. Its not been an easy transition so far. Its been a lot of waiting, hoping, chilling, and praying. My eyes have been on God and I. I see other successful people and think yeah working on getting there, MUST. GET. THERE.

Consequently my eyes have not been peeled for things and people that I believe glorify God. I have noticed a few things.

The book: "Boundaries" By Dr.s Henry Townsend and John Cloud. It glorifies God in that it seeks to make people more like God. God is a definitely a God of boundaries and healthy ones. In being like him, we must build and maintain healthy wise boundaries. This book definitely helps.

African Christian Fellowship Young Adults: The National Board.

I don't think I've met another group of more talented, professional, and Passionate people. These guys put on a AWESOME conference in Chicago. I left inspired to go change my world.

Open Air Campaigners
These guys glorify God through spreading the gospel, on the street, to anyone who will stop to solve their puzzles and listen. They are a network of people determined to keep speaking the gospel out loud, for as long as they can.

My mother:
She is sixty today. She raised some of her sisters, and 5 strong sons with my father. She's nothing short of amazing. Her strength, her joy, her vision, I don't know a woman who doesn't admire her. I wouldn't know of the many times she sought to serve God if she didn't tell me. She's given her time to patients, the homeless, the mentally handicapped, and normal people who could use an extra mom. I only get one birth mother. I'm glad I have one who this AWEsome.

Joy Ike:
I have seen her perform like two more times after the last post. I've had the chance to speak with her a few times. She seems to be one of the few that has figured out how to fly, with her feet still on the ground. Rumors: Get it. The album will make you question your life.


Matthew 5:16
"Let your light shine before men in such a way that they may glorify your Father who is in heaven."

These things were not done in secret. (When I get a job, it won't be a secret! :) They were done in the open air for the sake of a Living God. Let us go and shine with them.

Joy. Light. Salt.

I saw Joy Ike jam for the second time, live. It was amazing and I am looking forward to the third. I met her in an organization called African Christian Fellowship. They were teenagers at the time. She and her sister, Peace, were inseparable and hilarious. We met every once in awhile over the years. I hope we get sit and talk with either one during the upcoming ACF Young Adult Conference. Every time, I did sit down with them, which wasn't for long, I was struck by their upbeat, vivacious spirit and their amazing musical talent. Both could make any operational piano sound like a full blown band. Whether Christian or non-Christian songs, singing or playing back-up for someone else they enjoyed a good piano.

I arrived at the bar, DC9, fresh from an ACF meeting, still in church clothes. While I waited for the show to start, I learned that it would be a group of nine singer/songwriters. Each singer would do two songs and call the next up. She was number five. The other artist were great but it was a long wait for one I came to see. When it was her turn she almost bounced onto the stage. She gave a spare explanation of her first song. She set up her pedal, took of one shoe, and made an entire day worth it. During "City Lights," she wove a story of highlighted with her words and shadowed by the scarcity of her descriptions. I could hear the heart of whoever lived under those lights; I heard my own questions created by the shadows of within the story. Joy Ike, "She Flowed." She breathed deep, sang hard, and made sure you could feel every note she gave.

The point of this blog is to look into a sometimes light world around me and to point to those things, actions and people that honor God. I mention her because I believe that she honors God. Her faith is evident. From times I have spoken with her to the diction of her songs, I know she's a believer. She honors God for boldly going to places and amongst people where God is not. For some of the other nine, God was not present. Some questioned if He was there at all. Some declared Him a crutch, a figment of imagination. Some mournfully sang of lost relationships and celebrated the weddings of loved ones. I know that all of her songs don't scream Jesus for the chorus line, but I hope (and I'll pray) that those around her will meet the Christ within her.

From her performances on the streets of Philadelphia and the theaters of Harlem, to the clubs on Sunday and Saturday night, Joy Ike plays, sings, and performs to the glory of the one who made her. To His fame, like the many saved that history might never name, she's been Joy amongst the despairing, light to the searching, and salt to those tasting for change.

Julie and Julia

I loved the movie. Seldom do I watch such a serious, feel-good movie without somebody dying. The movie is absolutely meant for women (in my humble opinion). Still, I'm a guy and enjoyed it. Nora Ephron does a good job of depicting a life (Julia Child) while depicting a piece of an era (Senator McCarthy and McCarthyism). The acting was incredible. It hit after the movie, that a 30 something year old woman acted like a complete three year old on screen and I believed it! Amy Adams and Meryl Streep did amazing jobs.

On a deeper level, the movie was moving (duh). It depicted two loved women, who were trying to love being alive. Their way of enjoying their days became cooking. They ended up having to fight for what made 'em feel useful, successful, engaged, influential, and creative. Child fights to go to a good cooking school, fights to take and pass her graduation test, and fights to get a cookbook done. Powell fights, to keep cooking and writing. Despite discouragement from her mother and the times of "total meltdowns."

There are three things that move about this movie.

One.

Its about small things. In the grand scheme of things, cooking can mean about as much as an umbrella in monsoon. Yet, if we admit it, much of our lives are spent on small things. Things that are far from the field politics, breakthroughs in human health, and international agriculture. It is the small important things that we are built enjoy doing, to enjoy being.

Two.

Their husbands gave these ladies undying support. Yet, Stanley Tucci and Chris Messina acted like real people. They loved their wives but they didn't stop 'em from having bad days and vulnerable moments.

Three.

Most importantly movie poignantly portrayed the interplay between lives. Julia's life and ambition affected the lives of many American women in profound way, it gave joy to her family, it gave two French women a collaborator, and it allowed one book editor to quietly make history. Julie's life and ambition, gave her co-worker a little joy, her family, an adventure to be a part, of her mother something to be proud of, small crowd of internet foodies, something to think about, and to her small crowd of friends it gave them something to eat.

"Man's chief end is to glorify God and enjoy him forever."

Like Bezalel and Oholiab (Exodus 36), Heman and Asaph (1 Chronicles 6:39), Saul/Paul (Act 2), Darrell Green, Gerald Ford, Ira D Sankey, and Jessica Flannery pay attention to the small things that give you joy. God made you that way to enjoy the little things (not worship, enjoy) is to enjoy life (Ecclesiastes 9:9, 1 Timothy 6:17).

Euthanasia and Abortion

The book "Legislating Morality" is by Frank Turek and Norman Geisler (1998). The issue that truly caught me was the connection between abortion and euthanasia. Abortion is defined by Webster-Merriam's online dictionary as "the termination of a pregnancy after, accompanied by, resulting in, or closely followed by the death of the embryo or fetus: as a : spontaneous expulsion of a human fetus during the first 12 weeks of gestation." Euthanasia is defined as "the act or practice of killing or permitting the death of hopelessly sick or injured individuals (as persons or domestic animals) in a relatively painless way for reasons of mercy."

Abortion and euthanasia have much the same reasons for being enacted. A human life is ended because the person has become inconvenient to themselves or to someone else. When a person is in so much pain that living is a trial, a person has become inconvenient to themselves. When a person has become a financial and an emotional burden to their loved one, they have become inconvenient to their friends and family.

The logical supports for abortion are much the same, the fetus (baby) has become inconvenient to the mother for financial or emotional reasons. If the fetus is a source of rape or incest, the 24 living chromosomes become inconvenient to the mother because that life acts a reminder. If the the mother is unprepared to take care of the baby, that person has become financially inconvenient to the mother. There are other reasons given for abortions, (from webmd.com) teen mothers are aware they are not mature enough to have children, having a child would not possible above the poverty line, mental or physical conditions that would endanger the mother's health during pregnancy, and the child will have birth defects or deformity.

Because a child will be hard to raise, or will have a hard life, it does not make it right to kill that child. Their is little difference between a birthed baby and a fetus. Very little changes. The baby still needs the same things whether in the womb or out of it.

Because a person is in pain, desires to die, feels a loss of control or dignity, feels like an emotional burden or feels like a financial weight, it does not mean that that person has a right to kill him or herself and no one has the right to kill them.

"We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable rights, that among these are Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Happiness-"

According to moral law, we were given the right to life by our Creator. The right to life is the first right and the most important right, upon it all other rights are based and without it all other rights have no value. Since the right to life is a right we did not give ourselves but receive, it is right that we cannot take from ourselves. Natural can and does occur. Death due to circumstance, can and does occur, but we are not allowed to take our lives nor are others allowed to take our lives from us.

This great country is against active euthanasia, voluntary euthansia, aid-in-dying, and assisted suicide. For now. As long we call abortion morally right... it still is a matter of time until we extend the same logic to the unwanted elderly population.

As a people who seek to honor God we must continue to pray and actively seek to repeal abortion laws and prevention of euthanasia.

(Obviously I am indebted to Frank Turek and Norman Geisler and their book Legislating Morality).

(Also, before birth (Genesis 25:23, Ecclesiastes 11:5) and old age are times recognized in Scripture (Ecclesiastes 12) and valued by God).