The standard.
2 Timothy 2:22
Flee youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart.
For those who work with youth, questions about dating are often raised. “How far is to far?” “Can I talk to a girl?” “What if we are not doing anything?” Youth are basically asking “What is the standard?” Please remind them/us (young adults) of the standard. God’s standard isn’t what romance looks like but what does following Him look like? (It’s what we are really asking when we ask “How does a Christian date? Or how does a Christian “do” romance? In Acts 11:26d it says “And the disciples were called Christians first in Antioch” KJV. To be a Christian means one is a follower of Christ.) How does one date as a Christian? Better put, how does one follow Christ as she or he dates? Jesus lived a life of loving God. His love for God enabled Him to love each man and woman. As Christians is lust or like enough for a relationship? If He dealt with people only in love, are we to do less? Does His love look self-centered, possessive, or conditional?
How does one follow Christ as she or he dates or romances?
Paul wrote this letter while in prison. It was part of his final words to his legacy, the next generation of Christian leaders. He called this young man to follow after righteousness, faith, charity, and peace. He gave him a new aim to substitute the loss of his old one. Paul told Timothy not to do it alone but to go along with those who called on God after a pure heart.
There is so much more to this verse. For us and those we minister to let this be the standard. In all things we are followers of Christ. Wherever the practices and aims of dating and romance do not (and cannot) conform to our aim to live like Him, we are committed to letting go, getting rid off, avoiding, those practices and aims. We are determined to live at the standard.
Thursday, November 20, 2008
Friday, October 17, 2008
Keep Bleeding
Keep Bleeding.
We keep trying to hold on to our time
Our energy
Our peace
Our comfort zone
Our friends and our phones
To the refreshing times alone
And cool rep with those who matter
except for Christ
We give a away time we'll never get back
Our energy to things that won't profit us
We are troubled by things we could let go
Be won't for Christ
Our comfort zone holds no comfort
Our friends and phones don't bring us support,
Prestige, and Convenience.
Neither do our refreshing times alone:
We get pressed and burden to get "loving-people-work" done
We give up the rep of the normal, the cool, the all-together look
But we are all-together the broken;
The bleeding.
Bleeding love in as many ways as we got
Spilling blood through things we touch
On those whom we hold.
Frankly we have to much hold
And still more in Jesus' next heart-pump
Hoping that such abundance
Convince you to try a blood transfusion
(To internally recieve some of His time,
His energy, comfort, support, prestige...ect (like manumission).)
To the youth pastors
Keep bleeding,
To the pastors
Keep bleeding,
To the evangelists, inviters, nurses,
architects, maintenance-men and lunch ladies
(Wherever you are ministering)
I encourage us
Keep bleeding.
His lost people don't need
More plasma, electrolytes,
platelets, nutrients, or supplements,
It needs us.
A bleeding, broken, forgiven,
in process and whatever the mess
Ambassodors and friends of the Man
Our lost loved ones need Us.
We keep trying to hold on to our time
Our energy
Our peace
Our comfort zone
Our friends and our phones
To the refreshing times alone
And cool rep with those who matter
except for Christ
We give a away time we'll never get back
Our energy to things that won't profit us
We are troubled by things we could let go
Be won't for Christ
Our comfort zone holds no comfort
Our friends and phones don't bring us support,
Prestige, and Convenience.
Neither do our refreshing times alone:
We get pressed and burden to get "loving-people-work" done
We give up the rep of the normal, the cool, the all-together look
But we are all-together the broken;
The bleeding.
Bleeding love in as many ways as we got
Spilling blood through things we touch
On those whom we hold.
Frankly we have to much hold
And still more in Jesus' next heart-pump
Hoping that such abundance
Convince you to try a blood transfusion
(To internally recieve some of His time,
His energy, comfort, support, prestige...ect (like manumission).)
To the youth pastors
Keep bleeding,
To the pastors
Keep bleeding,
To the evangelists, inviters, nurses,
architects, maintenance-men and lunch ladies
(Wherever you are ministering)
I encourage us
Keep bleeding.
His lost people don't need
More plasma, electrolytes,
platelets, nutrients, or supplements,
It needs us.
A bleeding, broken, forgiven,
in process and whatever the mess
Ambassodors and friends of the Man
Our lost loved ones need Us.
Friday, September 19, 2008
Give Your Life
We often make the mistake of saying "he gave his life" or "she gave her life" for a certain cause or person. The thought that when one's death is the most valuable moment in life is contained in this idea. As soon as we think it, we disagree with the thought. It has been ingrained in us that life is made up and valued by the time we spend loving life. The time we spend loving our friends and family and being loved on by them, the time we spend being loved on by moments themselves as we recieve awards we slaved for, drink the sweet, concentrated, and final drops of mountain top experiences... and other stuff. When we die for certain cause or person, we give our death... not our life. How does one give their life? Answer: Define life and then give it.
For me, I define life through the example of my dad. He gave his life for me and my brothers, while we were in elementary and high school. He gave his every waking moment to being with us and taking care of us. (He even gave the moments while he should have been asleep.) He gave us his remaining years of youth and strength, he gave us his dreams, his patience, his intellect, his stories, his peace of mind, his strength, (sometimes) his moments of weakness, he gave all he could and (by the grace of God) more.
For whatever cause or for whatever person, you will rarely be offered the opportunity to give your death. You can only take that opportunity once.
You are offered the opportunity to give your life everyday. You can do it again and again and again.
For all that's worthy take it!
Give your Life.
For me, I define life through the example of my dad. He gave his life for me and my brothers, while we were in elementary and high school. He gave his every waking moment to being with us and taking care of us. (He even gave the moments while he should have been asleep.) He gave us his remaining years of youth and strength, he gave us his dreams, his patience, his intellect, his stories, his peace of mind, his strength, (sometimes) his moments of weakness, he gave all he could and (by the grace of God) more.
For whatever cause or for whatever person, you will rarely be offered the opportunity to give your death. You can only take that opportunity once.
You are offered the opportunity to give your life everyday. You can do it again and again and again.
For all that's worthy take it!
Give your Life.
Tuesday, August 19, 2008
Young Life
Recently, I got the opportunity to work with Young Life. I was a volunteer leader. The young men and women that I got to meet were amazing. Their sense of humor was sidesplitting. The love Christ showed them was crazy/muy muy loco.
I love Young Life's style of ministry, their mission in reaching the unreached (and otherwise unreachable) youth, and the love they so wisely show. At camp I found that Young Life does not make an issue of secular songs or the way the kids dress. Other than doing their best to prevent detrimental or distracting behavior the staff at Young Life focused on winning the right to be heard (through love) and introducing the teens to the Gospel of Christ. As a staff member, I grew more laid back towards music and jokes. Not to the point where I became inauthentic or compromised but to the point where I could relate with the young men and women I met. Again, I was amazed. Some teens accepted Christ. Some showed more of what it meant to be a Christian. It was a blessing every time a youth chose love over hate, service or self-concern, and courage over pride and fear. God intervened several times to keep the peace, show some love, or break a heart-callus.
I spent one week as a volunteer leader in it, God proved Himself to be truly incredible. I am grateful.
If you've experiences with Young Life or heard of it drop a line.
I love Young Life's style of ministry, their mission in reaching the unreached (and otherwise unreachable) youth, and the love they so wisely show. At camp I found that Young Life does not make an issue of secular songs or the way the kids dress. Other than doing their best to prevent detrimental or distracting behavior the staff at Young Life focused on winning the right to be heard (through love) and introducing the teens to the Gospel of Christ. As a staff member, I grew more laid back towards music and jokes. Not to the point where I became inauthentic or compromised but to the point where I could relate with the young men and women I met. Again, I was amazed. Some teens accepted Christ. Some showed more of what it meant to be a Christian. It was a blessing every time a youth chose love over hate, service or self-concern, and courage over pride and fear. God intervened several times to keep the peace, show some love, or break a heart-callus.
I spent one week as a volunteer leader in it, God proved Himself to be truly incredible. I am grateful.
If you've experiences with Young Life or heard of it drop a line.
Saturday, August 2, 2008
Sunday, July 20, 2008
Good Church
In the July 20, 2008, Washington Post, there was an article about how churches were getting involved in bringing debt relief. Pastors are having an affect not by lobbying Congress or marching the streets but by encouraging their members to practice good stewardship over their money (a biblical principle). Some have even gone as for as asking their parishoners to cut up their credits and leave them at the altar! I think this is good-God-honoring church. It makes me proud to be of this great body. I remember the media attention that was brought to America's weight crisis. Many pastors responded by focusing their ministry on corporate weight-loss programs, healthy-eating advice, and sermons that addressed the psychological issues by exposing maladaptive strategies for dealing with stress and pain, encouraging positive body-image, and challenges to face and deal with low-self esteem and hopelessness.
Their are many leaders in the church, both clergy and lay, who have endeavored to be God's voice to the current issues of his people. Some answer with fads, some with tried-and-true wrong answers (donate more money), some with eternally true answers (that are based on the character of God). Because of God first, and those who seek apply eternal truths to day's questions (second), I am proud to be apart of the Church. Such people honor God.
Their are many leaders in the church, both clergy and lay, who have endeavored to be God's voice to the current issues of his people. Some answer with fads, some with tried-and-true wrong answers (donate more money), some with eternally true answers (that are based on the character of God). Because of God first, and those who seek apply eternal truths to day's questions (second), I am proud to be apart of the Church. Such people honor God.
Tuesday, July 1, 2008
The Voice of the Bridegroom
From John 3
27To this John replied, "A man can receive only what is given him from heaven. 28You yourselves can testify that I said, 'I am not the Christ[j] but am sent ahead of him.' 29The bride belongs to the bridegroom. The friend who attends the bridegroom waits and listens for him, and is full of joy when he hears the bridegroom's voice. That joy is mine, and it is now complete. 30He must become greater; I must become less.
This is one is for my youth workers (and pastors).
Your heart aches. You've watched him grow and change before your very eyes. When she experienced the Spirit for the first time, you were there. The joy of that first love, you were listening. During his first (adult) baptism, you were smiling. She told you the fear she felt to ask her friend if she knew Christ and you were sympathetic. His shoulders were heaving at his first breakup and you held him. And in your heart, you're still holding him. As she strolls from your church, into her parents car and off to college. Not out of your life... just farther away. It hurts to watch them go. How can you watch them go with so much of you... and go on?
Let me introduce you to voice of the Bridegroom. The voice of the Bridegroom is calling your teen. You can see the effects of his call not just in their desire to leave home, but in their desire to change, to grow, to be different. Jesus is calling them to Himself. As he called Peter, James and John from the safety of their parents and their homes. To the places that most parents would never wish on their kids. Places that will refine them, focus them, stretch and deepen them, and yes, make them suffer.
John had a much clearer picture. He watched as the men that he had poured his life, his time, his patience, his compassion, his genius, his discipline, and yes, his life into... leave. More than that, the crowds were growing less and less. Day by day John faced being phased from his life's work, what he knew to be his mission: calling Israel to repentance. So they told him Rabbi the one you testified about, he is baptizing and everyone is going to him." (Paraphrase of John 3:24).
Interestingly enough, John replies in a parable-like statement (quoted above). He remembers that the people were not meant for him. He remembers that they are meant for God and that he, John must fade out as God gets greater. It gives him joy.
May the voice of the Bridegroom in your teens life do the same for you.
It is hard pouring into teens (takes courage!). It is even harder seeing them go. As they mentally, spiritually, and physically leave your side- be comforted! You given your teenager the most firm and life-giving thing: God (or the way to Him). Your adolescent heads on to a greater knowledge and relationship with God.
27To this John replied, "A man can receive only what is given him from heaven. 28You yourselves can testify that I said, 'I am not the Christ[j] but am sent ahead of him.' 29The bride belongs to the bridegroom. The friend who attends the bridegroom waits and listens for him, and is full of joy when he hears the bridegroom's voice. That joy is mine, and it is now complete. 30He must become greater; I must become less.
This is one is for my youth workers (and pastors).
Your heart aches. You've watched him grow and change before your very eyes. When she experienced the Spirit for the first time, you were there. The joy of that first love, you were listening. During his first (adult) baptism, you were smiling. She told you the fear she felt to ask her friend if she knew Christ and you were sympathetic. His shoulders were heaving at his first breakup and you held him. And in your heart, you're still holding him. As she strolls from your church, into her parents car and off to college. Not out of your life... just farther away. It hurts to watch them go. How can you watch them go with so much of you... and go on?
Let me introduce you to voice of the Bridegroom. The voice of the Bridegroom is calling your teen. You can see the effects of his call not just in their desire to leave home, but in their desire to change, to grow, to be different. Jesus is calling them to Himself. As he called Peter, James and John from the safety of their parents and their homes. To the places that most parents would never wish on their kids. Places that will refine them, focus them, stretch and deepen them, and yes, make them suffer.
John had a much clearer picture. He watched as the men that he had poured his life, his time, his patience, his compassion, his genius, his discipline, and yes, his life into... leave. More than that, the crowds were growing less and less. Day by day John faced being phased from his life's work, what he knew to be his mission: calling Israel to repentance. So they told him Rabbi the one you testified about, he is baptizing and everyone is going to him." (Paraphrase of John 3:24).
Interestingly enough, John replies in a parable-like statement (quoted above). He remembers that the people were not meant for him. He remembers that they are meant for God and that he, John must fade out as God gets greater. It gives him joy.
May the voice of the Bridegroom in your teens life do the same for you.
It is hard pouring into teens (takes courage!). It is even harder seeing them go. As they mentally, spiritually, and physically leave your side- be comforted! You given your teenager the most firm and life-giving thing: God (or the way to Him). Your adolescent heads on to a greater knowledge and relationship with God.
Friday, June 20, 2008
For When You Just Want to Help...
You walk into a room and there is a shouting match going on....
As you sit by your friend in front of the TV he or she begins to share just what happened and how his/her relationship with_________ went sour...
Your brother/sister tells just how much this recent failure hurt...
And all you want to do is say a few words... you know... help.
Stop.
Wait a second...
Think about it...
You're about to speak to someone who is probably A) emotional B) impressionable/influencable C) listening to you and D) trusting you.
So stop.
Wait a second...
Think about it...
There is power in words (James 3:6). More than that, in such situations the listener empowers your words with their trust that.... it'll help.
Take note of at least three things
1) Let the words you speak be spoken out of love.
Focus on the fact that you love the person you're trying to help, you'll avoid the pitfalls that come from pride and fear when communicating.
2) You're not-all knowing and neither are they.
Be prepared to not have the answer.
You were told their side of the story or at best as much of the story as they know. (Snap-judgements are rarely true.)
3)The most powerful thing you can do is listen.
Most of the time those who seem to seek your guidance really just need your support. Not necessarily of what they've done, but of who they are and the good in them. Be ready to just listen. Let them sound out their ideas. Be as honest as you can (in love).
You might not have the answer others need (and they might not have what you need), but you can always avoid talking them into a worse situation and offer a listening ear.
So for all the times you hear the story of a family breaking-up, two friends seperating, a failure, or a dissappointment and you're tempted to speak...
Stop.
Wait a second...
Think about it...
It'll...you know.... help.
Proverbs 15:23.
As you sit by your friend in front of the TV he or she begins to share just what happened and how his/her relationship with_________ went sour...
Your brother/sister tells just how much this recent failure hurt...
And all you want to do is say a few words... you know... help.
Stop.
Wait a second...
Think about it...
You're about to speak to someone who is probably A) emotional B) impressionable/influencable C) listening to you and D) trusting you.
So stop.
Wait a second...
Think about it...
There is power in words (James 3:6). More than that, in such situations the listener empowers your words with their trust that.... it'll help.
Take note of at least three things
1) Let the words you speak be spoken out of love.
Focus on the fact that you love the person you're trying to help, you'll avoid the pitfalls that come from pride and fear when communicating.
2) You're not-all knowing and neither are they.
Be prepared to not have the answer.
You were told their side of the story or at best as much of the story as they know. (Snap-judgements are rarely true.)
3)The most powerful thing you can do is listen.
Most of the time those who seem to seek your guidance really just need your support. Not necessarily of what they've done, but of who they are and the good in them. Be ready to just listen. Let them sound out their ideas. Be as honest as you can (in love).
You might not have the answer others need (and they might not have what you need), but you can always avoid talking them into a worse situation and offer a listening ear.
So for all the times you hear the story of a family breaking-up, two friends seperating, a failure, or a dissappointment and you're tempted to speak...
Stop.
Wait a second...
Think about it...
It'll...you know.... help.
Proverbs 15:23.
Monday, June 16, 2008
Sometimes "waiting" means keep going...
Consider Chris Aberg, he recently completed the largest painting in the world. He spent more than a thousand hours; he drew for miles; he worked nights and weekends to finish his work of art. He kept going yet, in a sense he had to wait. He had to wait for his hand to do what he had done in his head thousands of times. The vision he saw in his head instanteneous but the finished work of art was not. Aberg would still have painted something huge if stopped halfway to his goal. He still would have achieved something amazing. Just as much as you will, if you stop practicing to be great writer, a great singer, a great ball player and start performing; you just might a end up a very good at what you chose to do. Consider the-all-time great Moses. Moses wanted to free his people his way. If he had succeeded Moses would have been simply a political revolutionary, who suceeded through much bloodshed and loss. Instead, God put him to work at herding sheep, starting a family and learning about him for 40 years.
Waiting.
For 40 years.
Moses changed the face of the Middle East. The spiritual revolution that came through him still reverberates throughout our world today. It took awhile; God made it worth his while.
I encourage you...
Make God's goals your goals; His way your way. He'll do the amazing with what you give Him. Also, wait for the larger stage, wait for the larger project, wait for what your goals are, by staying at work on what in front of you... schoolwork, that summer job, the endless hours invested practicing, volunteering, or just talking with God. Keep waiting it'll pay-off and pay-off huge!
(Exodus 2; Acts 7)
Waiting.
For 40 years.
Moses changed the face of the Middle East. The spiritual revolution that came through him still reverberates throughout our world today. It took awhile; God made it worth his while.
I encourage you...
Make God's goals your goals; His way your way. He'll do the amazing with what you give Him. Also, wait for the larger stage, wait for the larger project, wait for what your goals are, by staying at work on what in front of you... schoolwork, that summer job, the endless hours invested practicing, volunteering, or just talking with God. Keep waiting it'll pay-off and pay-off huge!
(Exodus 2; Acts 7)
Saturday, June 14, 2008
It's been awhile.
Ok so its been awhile since i posted anything. I don't have much to post so I'll say a little about myself. I have lived in DC for most of my life. While there I went to African Christian Fellowship. I enjoyed going the children's group. Joining the youth (which was quite active) was a dream. After i joined, around the age of 12, I continued to be inspired and excited by the possibilities of what we could do as youth. As a youngster, I went to youth meetings, Acquire the Fire, Youth conferences, and of course... high school. The experience was amazing. I got to meet so much of Jesus as a teenager. I met someone who was not just an object of worship but an exciting doorway into the most challenging and rewarding side of life. Jesus changed my life as a teenager. I told strangers about the gospel, I told friends and family that they were off when it came to Scripture (I was a little intense). On the street, it was incredible. I was going and going scared, but still going, still approaching, still talking, and listening (boy! the things troubled souls will tell a complete stranger!). More than giving me incredible things to do and say Jesus he completed my soul. He gave a mission, healing from hurt, freedom from fear, courage to love, and the daring to hope. He was a listening ear to the deep things of my heart and cheered me up in ways no one else could. Oh and the little miracles on tests, with friends, with transportation, money, and the oppurtunities to minister were amazing.
Recently, Over the past few years I got to work with teenagers for various reasons. I have worked as a camp counselor, a mentor (for one day), a tutor, and a church youth leader. I am still excited about with the possibilities of what God can do amongst a group of teens who open up to Him and what he can do WITH teens who give themselves to Him.
I have short glimmerings of what youth workers mean when they talk about pouring their lives into a adolescents just to watch them go. I still don't have an understanding yet.
Working with teens is great, satisfying, amazing. Seeing Jesus work in them (and people of all ages) tops all of that. It's been awhile but it sure has been fun.
Enjoy yer summer.
Recently, Over the past few years I got to work with teenagers for various reasons. I have worked as a camp counselor, a mentor (for one day), a tutor, and a church youth leader. I am still excited about with the possibilities of what God can do amongst a group of teens who open up to Him and what he can do WITH teens who give themselves to Him.
I have short glimmerings of what youth workers mean when they talk about pouring their lives into a adolescents just to watch them go. I still don't have an understanding yet.
Working with teens is great, satisfying, amazing. Seeing Jesus work in them (and people of all ages) tops all of that. It's been awhile but it sure has been fun.
Enjoy yer summer.
Tuesday, January 15, 2008
People do it. (Why the religiousness...?)
People do it.
People keep the hungry, hungry and poor, poor.
People do it.
People put clothes on the naked.
People give family love to those without biological fathers.
People give family love to those in prison.
People do it.
People created the atmosphere in Abu Gharib.
People did the atrocities during the Munich world cup.
People answered the call of crisis and created Doctors without Borders.
People do it.
The Bible is powerful because it is an avenue to and a way of seeing God.
God moves people do things. God is the inspiration for a lot of people to do what needs doing. God is the conviction that keeps people doing what needs doing.
So you ask me, what is the place of religion in the modern world? What is the place of God?
The place of religion is to provide people with structure therefore unity in action in worshipping. God belongs at the top, center, bottom of this modern world. He gives people life, purpose, and destiny.
We as people need to accept our purpose, our destiny from God.
We’ve already accepted His life.
Without him we are just taking up air.
People keep the hungry, hungry and poor, poor.
People do it.
People put clothes on the naked.
People give family love to those without biological fathers.
People give family love to those in prison.
People do it.
People created the atmosphere in Abu Gharib.
People did the atrocities during the Munich world cup.
People answered the call of crisis and created Doctors without Borders.
People do it.
The Bible is powerful because it is an avenue to and a way of seeing God.
God moves people do things. God is the inspiration for a lot of people to do what needs doing. God is the conviction that keeps people doing what needs doing.
So you ask me, what is the place of religion in the modern world? What is the place of God?
The place of religion is to provide people with structure therefore unity in action in worshipping. God belongs at the top, center, bottom of this modern world. He gives people life, purpose, and destiny.
We as people need to accept our purpose, our destiny from God.
We’ve already accepted His life.
Without him we are just taking up air.
Tuesday, January 1, 2008
Talk! It helps.
There is a lot going on during this period of your life. You are changing and your relationships with nearly everyone you know is changing. As you work through these changes things can become overwhelming. When they do, remember to talk about them. It'll help to clear your mind, remind you that someone cares about you, and keep your focus on what is important.
Talk
Before you do open your mouth on what is bothering you...
1. It helps to have a good listener.
2. Recognize your need to be listened to as valid.
3. Be upfront about your needs: if you just an ear say so and if you NEED advice... be clear about it.
4. If you feel to confused to talk, write out as much as you can. There is no need to write a complete account, this is just for you, to help you clear your head.
5. Pay good attention to who you ask to listen to you or for advice,
(there are great people out there just not cut out for those roles).
Whether you spoke to Mom, Dad, your best friend, a teacher, guidance counselor, coach, and/or family friend... show you appreciate their care, say thank you.
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